I DUMPED MY BOYFRIEND BECAUSE HE SUCKS IN BED! | RELATIONSHIPS

When it comes to sex talk, I know this is a very sensitive topic, especially for guys. As a man, you want to be the “Optimus Prime” when it comes to pleasing your partner and when you can’t do that, there is a big problem. Don’t get me wrong, women shouldn’t just expect the men to do all the work while they just lay there and enjoy it – Put in some work too. Work with him!
I believe most people have had a couple of bad experiences in bed. There are some cases where the chic just lays there, no sound, no movement and you have to keep checking to see if she still has a pulse. And other cases, the guy tries to give you oral sex and he starts chewing on your pussy like it’s raw meat, or maybe he just watched a porno movie and he tries to practice what he say in the movie on you but his performance was nothing to write home about, his idea of foreplay is either leaving u bleeding or leaving u sore…and that’s just to name a few… No guy likes to hear from his partner that he is not pleasing her in bed and sometimes I wonder if there’s a nice way to tell him without bruising his ego. How do you tell your partner that your pussy is delicate and he shouldn’t eat it like the ponmo he got from Iya Basirat’s restaurant, and you don’t want to hurt his feelings?
Most of us go about it the wrong way and hey I don’t blame you. You might have been horny for the longest time..maybe you even humped your pillow till it’s as flat as a pancake, then you finally get to have sex and he sucked at it, you are angry and unsatisfied, so you called him like “Hey, we need to talk, YOU SUCK!” –   this is a very wrong approach.

THERE IS A SUBTLE APPROACH TO SENSITIVE ISSUES LIKE THIS

It’s easy if you are very comfortable with your partner and you guys can talk about everything. Some people are embarrassed to talk to each other about sex and they are sleeping together. I don’t get it! Maybe you guys are still laying there right after the act, and he asks you how he did, you can just say “You were amazing. If you had done this or that, oh my God I would’ve gone wild!” As a woman, you should know the right “buttons” on your body. You know what a guy can do to make you have an orgasm, you know the part of your body that you want him to touch, kiss, bite or whatever it is that you’re into – Men are not mind readers. So tell him! Hold his hand and guide him. Men love when you tell them what you want them to do to you in bed so do that! Talking dirty comes in handy here too. Tell him what you want abeg.  If that doesn’t work, instead of telling him what you want, SHOW him what you want. When he starts touching you, grab his hand and show him what to do with it. Tell him you want him to kiss you ‘here’ and ‘here.
The truth about this matter is – there are some times where you just have to forget about his feelings. If you have tried being nice, leading him, telling him what you want and he is just hopeless, what do you do? And let’s be real here – Bad sex IS a deal breaker in relationships.  Nobody wants bad sex, try not to make it too serious of a conversation or to bring it up in front of other people. Be frank. Talk to your partner about it as if it’s not that big of a deal (even though it is) but make sure the point gets across. Hopefully your partner doesn’t get offended.